Thoughts about two messages I come across daily
This might all come from my personal social media world, the one that cookies, preferences and whatnot have curated for me. So, of course, take my opinions with a pinch of salt and feel free to not give it a second thought.
- You are perfect as you are. God-damn it. No, you are not. We are not born knowing, we are not born with all our potential skills developed, not all about us is good and great from the beginning. We are definitely not perfect in any way. It is a hurtful truth, I know, but we must admit that there are in fact people who are better than you and me in many ways. Acceptance doesn’t come from denying that you may be less than other people when it comes to certain skills, abilities, traits… It is a tricky business, and the intention is kind. But in the long run, the narrative seems to be that you don’t need to do anything else other than accept yourself as you are; change how you look at yourself and it will all be good. You can love yourself right now, sure, but don’t ignore the ugly pieces – it is not love if you do. Change your perspective, yes, consider yourself extraordinary, with a huge potential, but don’t think that all is done. If there’s never any work, if there’s no investment of energy and action to become an example of whom we want to be in the world, isn’t that self-love just going to be a sweet delusion?
- Here’s the morning routine of 8 successful people. Here’s my skincare routine for perfect skin. Here’s an exercise that will change your life, and here a book, and a system, and a course… What about teaching people how to think critically, analyse, experiment, draw conclusions and let them create their own definition of success, choose what’s best for their skin, for their body and mind, etc.? There’s clearly something indulgent, passive and narcissistic in some of the ways that certain products and services (even free) are “marketed”. We are people and we need tools to create, we don’t need to be spoon-fed stuff that we might even be allergic to.
Alright, this is as far as I’ll go today. I apologise if it seems a rant. Sometimes, I feel like there are plenty of unhealthy messages and not enough positive and healthy narratives to counterbalance them. I’m aware this may just be my experience of that.